Bad day. Feel stupid and worthless. Need hugs.

[thatcrazycajun]

Can't talk to the Songbird as she's eight hours ahead and asleep. Work today was crammed with fail and boss displeasure. Felt both incompetent and idiotic. No, not channeling Rorschach from Watchmen, just depressed and lonely. And I know some of the things I put up here make the case for me having the approximate IQ of chocolate pudding. If you disagree, I could use a post from you.

Comments

[anaisdjuna.livejournal.com]

I guess I'm not on the chocolate pudding filter cuz I've not seen that from you. You often post insightful and refreshing analysis of issues and ideas.

You've got the gemini gift of gab both here and in the filkiverse. You also have a rich and pleasing singing voice. I enjoy seeing your devotion and hearing you speak of your love for your Songbird.

When we're not perfect then we have to screw up to learn. Learning is good! Beating yourself up for screwing up (hee hee that was funny! see making mistakes can be fun ;-) is not good.

Just like we are what we eat... we are what we think in the sense that negative thoughts beget negative feeling brain chemicals and these chemicals carve negative feeling pathways in our brain that want to fire and continue to live so they open their mouths like little hungry birds. They can be re or un mapped, but it gets harder.

Best thing to do is to think forgiving thoughts when you screw up. Acknowledge the mistake and your humanity. Learn and hit the reset button with a hardy burst of forgiveness.

Bill Gates once said that he wouldn't go into business with someone who'd never had a business fail. Mistakes build character and compassion and new knowledge. We're taught to be compassionate towards others, but compassion for self is a equally as important. If you don't practice it liberally often, you won't have the reserves and resources for compassion for others.

One thing I think for myself when choosing to be upset about something or not is this:

Will I remember it when I'm 60? If not, I let it go. BS comes and goes. Be fair and just when the BS hits and indulgent in self praise and acknowledgment when you do good and positive stuff.

You're a smart kid with a good heart. Don't forget that.

*Hugs*

Adj.

I disagree.

[nimitzbrood.livejournal.com]

We've had a few comments back and forth by now and I have you on my flist not just because you friended me. You're definitely one of the smart and interesting people.

As for work? You _did_ read the f-locked post I made today right? That all could have gone a lot better had I just put a little thought into how to react to the guy. On top of all that I got back to the office after the meeting and flubbed a number of support issues for the rest of the damn day.

We all have the dumb every so often. ;-)

Oh geeZe! See? I forgot the hug!

*hug*

[technoshaman.livejournal.com]

"..we must pick ourselves up , dust ourselves off, and begin again the work..." -- President Obama

And I figure anybody who wrote "A Simple Country Doctor", and who can keep a relationship alive across an eight-hour timezone difference, is not totally made of fail. He might fail, occasionally, but he is not *made of* fail.

Remember back to GaFilk, to having SB there within hug range. And remind yourself that if you set your mind to it, those things can happen again, and better.

[mshollie.livejournal.com]

(((((hugs)))))

I need some too. Care to reciprocate?

[thatcrazycajun.livejournal.com]

Always, and thank you.

[mshollie.livejournal.com]

You're welcome. :)

[jannyblue.livejournal.com]

You are smarter than chocolate pudding.

You are even smarter than tapioca. ;-)

Seriously, though.

You're good people and the world NEEDS more good people.

Take care.

*hugs*

[wouldyoueva.livejournal.com]

Yeesh, btdt. Even when I disagree with you, I've never thought you were stupid. If I thought you were stupid, why would I have you on my FList? As my friend Jul says, take an air hug from me.

[poltr1]

I've had a few days like that, most recently wondering if I'm the right person for the job I'm doing.

FWIW, I enjoy your posts here.

[zanda-myrande.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Chocolate pudding is a lot smarter than many people think. Boss displeasure, in my experience, means nothing other than that the boss has been kicked from on high and wants to pass it along. And I have never seen you say anything stupid.

[netpositive.livejournal.com]

I think you are intelligent and talented, but you do seem to have more than your share of tough times and bad days. Sorry I can't deliver this *hug* in person to help you with the lonely midwinter blues.

[osewalrus.livejournal.com]

We all have bad days, especially when the weather is like this. Hang in there! You are definitely one of the worthwhile people in this world.

[acelightning.livejournal.com]

[ladymondegreen.livejournal.com]

Well, I for one, really like chocolate pudding.

That being said, bad day seems to have been going around. I probably had one too, but I seem to have ignored it. I'm glad you got through it. I really hope tomorrow is better.

Love and hugs.

[gorgeousgary]

**hugs**

I'm with smallship1; a substance that can transform itself into so many wonderful varieties and shapes and bring such pleasure to so many seems pretty intelligent to me... 8-)

Also agree with ladymondegreen that there are flocks of ducks all about today. I had a craptastic commute on Metro this morning that wound up costing me an extra $12--and I still got to work an hour late!

[terriwells.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

You are not dumber than chocolate pudding. You are not even dumber than sugar-free chocolate pudding (which, from where I'm sitting, is actually pretty darn smart). I disagree with you regularly, but you always make your case, usually pretty eloquently.

Can you use some free advice? Try reading _The Feeling Good Handbook_ and doing the exercises. I didn't get all the way through it, but it helped me. *And* I realized that I reached a turning point by unconsciously applying something that was kind of implied in the pages. Basically, I flipped my way of thinking about bad days/good days as to which days were the exception and which were the rule. A little thing, but it made me redefine myself.

Also reread anaisdjuna's post. Multiple times. Maybe even cut and paste it and print it out and put it somewhere prominent so you can see it. She's talking sense, and expressing it better than I could.

[thnidu.livejournal.com]

just depressed and lonely... the approximate IQ of chocolate pudding.

"Depression lies, and lies very well." I forget who said that, but it's true. Bin there, dun that. We all have days like that.

Being apart longterm from one's beloved is a real strain; I thought it was rough my first year in Philadelphia and she was still in Boston, and I could only talk to her on the phone every evening, and drive or take the train up every other weekend or so. I am croggled at how well you guys are managing it.

Blessings and (((hugs))).

[kitanzi.livejournal.com]

I strongly disagree, but I'm sorry you had such a sucky day. :(

[ladyqkat.livejournal.com]

My ex was once told he had to be smarter than the metal to be a blacksmith. He never became a blacksmith.

You, sir, are quite a bit smarter than chocolate pudding. I suspect, from what I have read in this blog, you are even smarter than metal. That makes you so very much smarter than my ex. Which is why he is my ex and you are my friend.

[crystalgee.livejournal.com]

Oh sweetie..*hugs*

You do not have the IQ of pudding and you never have.

You are however sweeter than the afore mentioned pudding..:)

*hugs*

I believe in you!

[zsero.livejournal.com]

Well, maybe if it were a really smart pudding, such as perhaps The Magic Pudding. Albert wasn't chocolate, and I reckon if he were chocolate he'd have been even smarter, maybe smarter than you. Maybe he could have written a filk song about it.

[starmalachite.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, honey. At this late date I can't really offer any advice someone hasn't beaten me to except for one thing: this too shall pass. Probably a lot faster once your meds are onboard and kicked-in again.

[sffilk.livejournal.com]

sounds like you need a break from cabin fever!

[janeg.livejournal.com]

I friended you because I really liked you and was impressed with you when we met at an Atlanta house filk. Since then, I read your journal partly because you give such intelligent commentary on American affairs, and partly because I am stunned at how anyone can keep up a long distance relationship so well. So don't tell me you're stupid, because that would be saying I am too to appreciate you so much.

Arms reaching out through the ether...